Dare To Say No

It is absorbing to see how difficult it is to say such a little affair as "no". Abounding humans just can't say no, and they ability end up blaming others for that. Of all people, women acquire even added difficulties than men, back they never, anytime learnt how to say no. And if they do, they are actual generally in trouble.
Let's say that Kate just bought a nice book. She is annoyed because she had a lot of things to appear to, lately. She has been searching advanced to this for some canicule now: She has chargeless time on the calendar, a acceptable book and a cup of tea. Her accouchement are at school. Everything is in order. She lies down and opens her book if the doorbell rings.
It is her acceptable friend, Sue. She is in foreground of the aperture with her two children, Johnny and Bonnie, and she says:
- Hi, Sue! It is so nice you are at home. I acquire a awfully important appointment. Can you amuse yield affliction of Johnny and Bonnie for me for the next brace of hours?
Now... What will Kate (and 99 % of the women account this) do? She will apparently affliction actual abundant she anytime answered the doorbell, and she will say "yes", of course.
Before Sue can acknowledgment "no" to such a thing, she has to be on her way out of the door, or anyone about her has to be abutting to afterlife or something abroad is authoritative it absurd for her to say "yes". I bethink a woman I knew from my advice courses. She consistently had a covering abaft the door. So if the doorbell rang, she would go to the door, yield the covering on and open. If it was anyone she didn't wish to see, she answered something like "sorry, but I was, in fact, on my way out". If it was anyone she capital to see, she answered "Oh, you're lucky, I just got home!".
People who can't say "no" may acquire to use actual complicated methods to abstain it. It is abundant easier to apprentice how to say "no" in a non-aggressive and absolute way.
First of all, you acquire to acquire and to acquire that you can say "no" just because you don't feel like accomplishing something. It doesn't charge to be important or complicated or yield too abundant of your time. In this case, Sue had addition plan and just the actuality that she wants (and a lot of apparently needs) her blow is an alibi as acceptable as any added to say "no". She absolutely doesn't charge a accounting official alibi from her physician or from her bedmate to feel like accomplishing something abroad than account her book and relaxing.
Now, the easiest way to say "no" is:
"No, sorry, I can't do that appropriate now".
And that's it.
Saying beneath may be accepted aggressively: "No".
Saying added is the alpha of giving explanations or award excuses and this is not necessary. You don't charge to accord an account of why you can't. You don't charge an excuse. Bethink to say that you CAN'T do that appropriate now. Not that you don't wish to, not that you don't acquire time. Nothing abroad than: "No, sorry, I can't do that appropriate now."
Any acquaintance will acquire that if you can't do something, it is because you cannot, and you would be afraid to apperceive how abounding account that. Especially if you advice if you can (or want), again they apperceive you. They apperceive that if you can, you will say "yes", and if you can't, you can say "no". That is added than enough.